Books by Dr. Mardy

Viva la Repartee: Clever Comebacks & Witty Replies from History's Wits & Wordsmiths (HarperCollins, 2005)

This is my most recent literary effort, published just before the Holidays in 2005. The book is the third in what I hope will be a long series of books celebrating my lifelong love of words, language, and quotations.

Viva la Repartee is an anthology of clever comebacks and witty replies from some of history's cleverest and most quick-witted people. The book contains over 600 examples of repartee, and the often fascinating stories behind them. All of the usual suspects have been rounded up, like Winston Churchill's famous reply to Nancy Astor ("And if you were my wife, I'd drink it!") and Groucho Marx's legendary quip to a man who said he had ten children because he loved his wife ("I love my cigar, but I take it out of my mouth every now and then"). You'll also find wonderful ripostes and rejoinders from Oscar Wilde, Mark Twain, Mae West, Dorothy Parker, Dolly Parton, and many, many others.

Even though I've been interested in repartee for more than forty years, I only began to systematically collect examples of such wit-under-pressure about ten years ago. I've found them in books, magazines, newspapers, films, and television programs. Many were described—often with great relish—at cocktail parties and in personal conversations. As friends and colleagues learned about my project, they began to tell me their favorites. As my collection of comebacks grew into the thousands, I began organizing them into categories (political, literary, sports, etc.). The target audience for the book is people who enjoy great wit and wordplay, especially when cleverness is displayed under pressure or when the chips are down.

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Oxymoronica: Paradoxical Wit & Wisdom from History's Greatest Wordsmiths (HarperCollins, 2004)

This is the second of my "word & language" books and, so far, the most popular book I've produced (it sold 100,000 copies in the first year of publication and was the best-selling quotation book on amazon.com in the year 2005). Happily, it continues to sell well today. This particular book is devoted to paradoxical and oxymoronic quotations—those very special observations that use a contradiction in terms or a contradiction in ideas to arrest our attention or tickle our funny bones. Examples of oxymoronica have tantalized the minds of people for centuries, showing up in such popular sayings as "less is more" and "Be careful what you wish for, it might come true."

Somebody once said, "A paradox is a truth standing on its head to get our attention." This book presents over 1,400 quotations that fit that description. Many of the quotes appear false upon first reading, but are profoundly true or perception-altering upon reflection. Still others are downright hilarious. A few examples:

Inspired by words like exotica and erotica, I coined the word oxymoronica more than ten years ago to describe quotes like these. Surprisingly, there's never been a book quite like this one. Robert Byrne, the author of all those wonderful "Best Things Ever Said" books said about Oxymoronica:

"You don't need military intelligence to enjoy this quirky, surprising, and educational tour through a previously uncharted region of the English language."

The book has already garnered considerable praise from people in the word and language community:

"As addictive as a bowl of peanuts—you can't stop after just one paradox from Oxymoronica!"
     A. Ross Eckler, editor of Word Ways: The Journal of Recreational Linguistics and author of Making the Alphabet Dance

"The oxymoron that best describes Oxymoronica is serious fun. Quotation guru Mardy Grothe's remarkable collection is as intellectually rewarding as it is wildly entertaining. The hundreds of paradoxical aphorisms he has ferreted out for this rich anthology are profound, witty, hilarious and sad—sometimes all at the same time! What's more, Dr. Grothe frames these intriguing quotations with intelligent and literate commentary that expands your understanding and appreciation of them. Whether you come to Oxymoronica for reference or for entertainment, you'll discover a trove of provocative, memorable wisdom as well as sheer reading pleasure."
     Don Hauptman, author of Cruel and Unusual Puns and Acronymania

"The quintessential collection of memorable, push-me-pull-you, yin-yang statements. Mardy Grothe has labored lovingly in the word yards of paradoxology."
    Richard Lederer, author of A Man of My Words, from the Foreword

"Truly the most comprehensible collection of contradictions around."
     Erin McKean, editor of Verbatim: The Language Quarterly and author of Weird and Wonderful Words

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Never Let a Fool Kiss You or a Kiss Fool You: Chiasmus and a World of Quotations That Say What They Mean and Mean What They Say (HB: Viking, 1999, PB: Penguin, 2000)

This book was my first foray into the "word and language" genre and the first popular book ever published about chiasmus (ky-AZ-mus), the fascinating literary device that lies behind some of the most memorable quotations of all time, including Cicero's "One should eat to live, not live to eat," Mae West's "It's not the men in my life, it's the life in my men," and JFK's "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do . . ."

Every now and then, a book takes an obscure word or concept and attempts to move it into the world of popular usage. That's what I'm trying to do with this book. Even though almost all people are familiar with the phenomenon of chiasmus, only the most literate people are familiar with the word. My goal is to make chiasmus a household word, in that same way that oxymoron, also an obscure word a few decades ago, is now known by virtually all literate people.

This is primarily a book of quotations, all of them examples of chiasmus. The first chapter introduces the concept and describes some details about chiasmus, including the fascinating etymology of the word and how every quote in the book can be "marked with an X." The rest of the book presents quotations, organized into categories, like "Political Chiasmus," "Chiasmus on Stage & Screen," and "Chiasmus for Lovers." If you're a word and language and quotation lover, I think you will like this book.

The noted poet X. J. Kennedy is the author of numerous volumes of poetry as well as three popular college textbooks on writing, literature, and poetry. Kennedy had this to say after reading my manuscript:

"After Mardy Grothe's heroic labors, will we ever be the same again? The word chiasmus being new to me, I was dumbfounded to find that this powerful rhetorical device so permeates our lives and, in the work of great writers from East to West, circles the globe. Mardy Grothe, a knowing guide, wears his learning lightly. I can't imagine that anyone else will ever explore this profound and regaling topic in such depth and breadth. For anyone who gets high on words, this book will be better than two double bourbons."

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This book, which I co-authored with fellow psychologist Peter Wylie, was written to guide readers through some of the predictable "people problems" they can expect to run into as business partners, business owners, CEOs, and managers of executive teams. The book argues that struggle is inevitable whenever people work together and presents a number of concepts, techniques, and strategies designed to help people more effectively cope with interpersonal problems at work. Dr. Dorree Waldbaum, co-director of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy, said of the book:

"With humor and wisdom … they illustrate how to prevent and cure potential disasters. It is the one book in the field I would take to a desert island and recommend to my clients."

The book is out of print, but copies are still available from online booksellers. To order Can This Partnership Be Saved?, click here.

This book, also co-authored with Peter Wylie, was written for every employee who ever had a "problem boss." It describes just about every type of problem boss imaginable, from the ineffective to the downright deviant. It offers guidelines, tests, and exercises to help readers evaluate their particular situation and determine the type of problem boss they have. The heart of the book is the presentation of twelve separate survival strategies that employees can use to cope with different types of bosses. Susan Kain, the Financial Editor at Goldman Sachs said about the book:

"A very interesting and readable book that kept me flying through its pages. It's loaded with practical advice and it's written in a lively and punchy style."

The book is out of print, but copies are still available from a number of online booksellers. To order hardback copies of Problem Bosses, click here.

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This is the second edition of my very first published book (first edition, 1987), also co-authored with Peter Wylie. Even though the book was titled "Problem Employees," the book may be more accurately described as a guide to help managers promote improved employee productivity and a happier, more satisfying work place. The heart of the book is a ten-step Performance Improvement Process that begins with "Analyzing Your Employee's Performance" and ends with "What Do I Do if None of This Stuff Works?" The trade publication Training News said of the book:

"They know their subject. A rewarding experience … an outstanding job."

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